Friday, November 8, 2013

A little advice.... Write it down

A thought I would pop in for a bit and give a little advise. Over the last almost ten years I have been keeping diaries and journals. Now when I started I did not do it for any particular reason other than I had a blank book and I could write, but over the last almost decade I have learned what a blessing writing can be. You grow a lot over time and having the ability to write down how you feel and what's going on is a treasure down the road. I have looked back and reread old entries may times and its always interesting to look back on who you used to be. Sometimes I laugh at how silly I was and what I thought was a huge deal. But if for nothing else it is a great place to document what is going on and what life is like for you that day. I would recommend that you make sure to date your entries for future reference.

 Keeping a journal is a personal way for me to reflect on my adventures and new life lessons.  I would recommend this to anyone especially if you are going throw change or a difficult time emotionally. It will help you to reflect on the blessings that are present in every situation. I hope that you will consider documenting your life in this personal way.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

A New Old Room

So I think I've had writers block. No matter how hard a tried I could not seem to find something to write about, and if I found something I wanted to write about I could seem to get it together to make it sound good. I have decided that a month is a little too long for me to go without a post so I am going to try.

Over fall break I finished my first quilt ever. Now I have always been a crafter and a lover of fiber arts. I learned to knit when I was eight years old and ever since then I have always wanted to learn more. This quilt was not a small undertaking for me. It is a queen size quilt 96 by 96 inches. I designed the quilt all by myself, it is a log cabin block in a star made completely with period fabrics and bright colors. But more about the quilt later when I can post pictures.

The purpose of this quilt is for my bed at home. I have been in need of a new quilt for a long time. My old one is falling apart, and is a little bit to young for me. So with finishing this quilt my mom has suggested that we redo my room so it fits the quilt. She suggested a colonel style room. The current rug in my room is a violet purple but there is hard word floors under it, however we do not know how good the condition of them is.

With this all being said I want to theme the room with the colonial or early romantic era theme and style. Most of the furniture in my room is antique and family furniture. Right now I don't know when this project will get done but I love thinking of what I want to do and how I want it to look. I keep thinking that I can make it perfectly authentic now I know that might not be possible but the idea is exciting. I'm opened to ideas. I would love to hear any of your ideas.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

College: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly :)

Its weird to think that I've been here at Gannon for over a month. How the time flew. In some cases it seems like yesterday that I moved in and began the adventure. However I also feel like I've been here forever. My days seem busy but I enjoy them, the classes have been tough but manageable. So in being here I thought I give some advice to incoming students, it may turn into life advice we will see where this goes, and how I have started to work on living up to this advice.

Get involved on campus:
 In my first week here, before classes (aka the craziness) started we had what is fondly referred to as Preview GU. One of the activities that was not mandated but was worth while at least in my opinion to go to was the activities fair. Now I'm sure most universities have on of these in there orientations before classes start. At the fair there were booths for almost all of the clubs and societies. All of the Greek life was represented along with club sports and groups like PATCHES or Service clubs. All the individual colleges or schools honor societies were there it was a really beneficial thing for me to go to get information and contacts for the clubs I was interested in.

So how this helped me.... I was able to get the contact information for the club Ultimate Frisbee team that I am now a part of. I love it and have all ready started to form a slight obsession for the game. We practice officially 2 nights a week as a full team a third afternoon is just for us handlers, and now we are starting to join a club league at one of the local schools. Frisbee is a lot of fun and the people are awesome. Having an activity to do that you enjoy that also keeps you active helps you to stay healthy and focused which makes it possible to not die with all the work that college actually has.

I have also joined the Symphonic Band here. Its a lot smaller than my high school band back home but I like it. Right now we are preparing for our Christmas concert so all our music is Xmas, which is fun and exciting. Being that we are a small group I was able to write an essay and do an audition and I now have a scholarship that is involved with the group.

My advice to any incoming freshman or rather anyone is stay involved, and try something new, you never know it could turn out to be your next favorite thing.

Meet new people:
This is kind of a no brainer your in a new place your going to meet new people. The important thing is to meet new people with an open mind, attend events and try to learn there names. For me personally the last thing was the hardest to do.

So your a freshman in college most of your classes are probably not your major, but rather general classes that are required to graduate. That means that every new class you go to you have a lot of new people in them or at least most of them are not the same. Be friendly meet the new people and try as hard as you can to remember their names. For me that is easier said than done. I'm still working on the name thing but I have gotten to the point that I know the names of at least one person in all of my classes. Doesn't seem that hard? You have to remember that I'm living on a floor with about 40 girls I've never met until now. The Frisbee team has about 30 people (6 girls the rest guys) None of whom live on my floor or wing. All of my classes have about 20 to 30 people in them. Plus there is a lot of people you meet at other events that don't fall into any of those categories. Do your best you can get there.

This really goes hand in hand with getting involved if you don't do anything your not going to meet new people. So trying to make new friends in things that interest you. While it may seem like there's no one that you have anything in common with once you get to know people things will work out.

Take things as they are:
 I'm going to apply this to a few things, but you can really apply it to almost everything in life. Don't over think things, now I know I do this so its something to work on. Don't take things to personally.

For me I can apply this best to me moving out of my original suite into a whole different room after being here for almost three weeks. Why did I move? Well the simple answer is that things didn't work out and it was the best idea for me and for Lexy. If you want to know more about what actually happened contact me personally if you don't have my number, well don't worry about it. What I learned for this whole adventure of dealing with this problem and then deciding to move is this, don't take it personally rather take it as it is. For most colleges your roommate your placed with will not be your best friend, your best friend will come for else where i.e. the first two topics, so if it doesn't work out try to just live together if that isn't working talk to your RA. The process of moving for me was stressful but once I started really living in my new room I'm glad I made the move. While Jaclyn and I aren't exactly the same person I think that we could be friends. The moral of this story is this take something at face value. You haven't been with these people long enough for it to have a deeper meaning.

This can also be applied to the workload. Now I can't complain too much its only freshman year and first semester for that matter the work is not that hard. But for sure its likely a lot more work than you have ever done. Unlike in high school you don't have to do the reading most professors are not going to hunt you down and make you go to class or do that paper. These are things of the past, so take the work as it is a lot more than your used to, but nothing that you can't handle. There's a reason you got into the college or university there's a reason you made it into the program your smart enough and capable enough to handle it so do just that handle it. I'm saying that there won't be things that aren't hard cause there will be but you can do it. For me the first test is always the hardest not knowing how the test  is going to look or how difficult it will be is always a stressor, but doing what you know works for you and trusting that you do know your stuff will help. Don't stress is all I can say and personally I know its easier said than done. Just this Friday was our first judgment day as Dr. Meinchouse calls it for Sacred Scripture. All I can say is that I was nervous I had no idea what the test was going to look like and how nit picky the questions would be but sitting here right now I think I did fine. Take things as they are and you can do it.

These are just two of many examples for me of where you can apply this phrase. I challenge you to think about where this applies to your life and what you may be blowing out of proportion.

A friend is a friend is a friend:
 Since my last post was kind of about this I'm going to try to not be to wordy on this :).

Your meeting a lot of new people, and forming new friendships, just remember that a friend is a friend. So that girl on the Frisbee team that you throw with almost daily can be just as good of a friend is that girl back home. Let your friendships grow. Also remember that you have friends and family back home that are here to support you. Call, text or do whatever you need to.

Homesickness:
You know that thing that you swore to yourself you would never let yourself get. It happens don't feel bad about yourself for getting it.

For me I said I wouldn't get it. This was a new adventure and a great thing for me a growing experience and I wasn't going to miss home. Now I can honestly say I got homesick am I ashamed of it not at all. It can be hard to leave behind friends and family and things you enjoy, but its important to remember that there still there if you need them. For I tend to focus on why I'm here, what I like about everything, cry a little and then move on. They will always be there. I like the fact that I have pictures to remind me of them.  Keep in mind that this is a growing experience and not something that will happen over night.

You can do it!!!

Be yourself:
So I know that this is a new beginning and with new beginnings people tend to think of ways in which they are unhappy with themselves and then try to invent a new you. Don't there is nothing wrong with trying to better yourself but remember that your a great person. Be you!

For me there was a lot of stress involved in the whole moving shindig. The thing I stress most is that there is nothing wrong with you, sometimes things don't work out as they planed its okay to move on or to move out for me literally its not ok to blame something on yourself.


So there has been a lot of things I've learned in these first thirty some days, and that doesn't include all of the course work. :) You can do it :) You out there who is reading this may not be in college or plan to be in the not to distant future but my challenge for you is to try to apply these to your life and see where they take you. As always I will try to write more but I'm not sure how consistent I will be. Have a good week everyone!

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Forever Friends

So I decided that its been a bit since my last post so I needed to come up with a topic for a new post. There has been a lot going on with classes picking up and other college dramas so its been tough to sit down and focus on what to write for you readers out there. So with this writer's block I was looking on Pinterest and I noticed that my best friend had pinned a lot of pins about friends, so I started to think about it and I decided a would talk about friendships.

So I started thinking... I would say there's about four different types of friends; just friends, good friends, close friends, and siblings. Just friends are those people in your classes or at work that you get along with you just haven't hung out with outside of that environment so your not really that close. Good friends are those people that you bond with over something such as a sport or an activity that you know you can go to if you needed to. Now for the other two I think that they are very similar, close friends are those who you can talk to about anything and who will support you in anything, the people who will tell it to you strait and have your back. However, siblings are those few friends you wish you were related to that you can talk to whenever, about whatever, the kind of friends that randomly show up at your house after you and your boyfriend broke up cause they can, or let you cry about it but take your phone so you don't make a stupid mistake cause they know you deserve better. I wouldn't say there's a huge difference between siblings and close friends that's why we call them both best friends.

Being at college for almost a month now I'm starting to realize that forming new friendships isn't always the easiest thing to do. Not that it isn't possible but rather that it takes time. As the saying goes, "Rome wasn't built in a day." I think this has been very true for me. I have formed a lot of good friendships especially with those on my ultimate Frisbee team, but I've also learned that some things just don't work out and its not a failure to change a situation like to move rooms.

So while I'm building new friendships and starting a new chapter of my life its nice to know that I have friends back home that care about me. I had a great conversation with one of my best friends today and its refreshing to know that no matter where you might go your not facing the world on your own. That best friends don't change because of distance, and you don't need to talk every day, but when you need them they have your back. The other thing I like is that they support you in your decisions even if it seems like no one else does.

So to all my friends old and new..... Thank you so much for everything you do/ have done/ will do in my life. God Bless you.

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

A Dorm Life

I have just moved into college. So its a new experience for me living away from home, sharing a room with a girl I just met, and living in a suite with four other girls that are new to me. Now before moving I asked all my friends as I was saying good bye to, or as my roommate says its not good bye its see you later, to give me advice on college or life in general.

Here are some of the memorable ones:

1) Work hard but not too hard

2) Get involved on campus

3) Be smart, have fun but do not be stupid

4) With your roommate lay out an agreement with what's okay and what's not okay and make sure you stick to it.

5) Stay in touch.

6) Talk to your professors they're there to be a resource so if you have a question ask or shoot them an email.

There were lots of other things but that's the general gist of what I was told before leaving for college. Now with being here a week there are some things I think that other people in my shoes might be interested in. So here's Mary's advice to future college students.

1) When your packing keep a list of what you want to make sure you have

2) Make sure you bring enough clothes and shoes to get by but not too many, remember your sharing a closet size room with someone else.

3) Communicate with your roommate you don't need two tvs.

4) Plan things to decorate the walls in dorms are boring

5) Remember you and your roommate don't have to be best friends you just have to live together so don't worry if you don't see them as a life long friend.

6) Get involved in clubs or sports there are plenty of things to do

7) Keep active and eat smart it will make everything easier for you.

8) SLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEP!!!! zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

9) Pack a day planner and a wall calendar its easy to forget those twenty pages you needed to read for philosophy

10) Check your schedule the morning of classes room numbers, professors, and times may change

11) Remember its a new adventure don't be too sad or nervous.

These are things that I have learned so far I'm sure there will be more and I will maybe do a new list monthly once I get into the swing of things. So far I really enjoy the college life I really like it here, well besides the Erie weather but that I can live with

Monday, August 19, 2013

Builds Character: Lovely Long Tresses

When I turned sixteen I made a promise to myself that I would never cut off my hair again at least until my wedding. Now I know that may sound random but I took a summer camp in 2006, and one of the girls in the group had cancer. So in honor of Erica I have donated over 48 inches of hair to Locks for Love. I would encourage anyone that wants to cut off more than 8 inches of hair to donate to Locks for Love its very easy and a great cause. They make wigs for cancer patients. But now that I have done this for now I want to see how long I can get my hair ideally I want it to be to my waist or longer.

I have never had a lot of patience, so I have been looking into other peoples thoughts and remedies for making their hair grow faster. Here are some of the interesting ones:

One girl claims that your hair grows slower if you cut it on a full moon. She claims that from her own personal experience cutting her hair on new moons during the water signs has helped it to grow fast. She even claims that the new moons during Pisces (Feb. 19- Mar. 20), and Gemini (May 21- Jun. 20) are the best. I may have to try this saying that I am a Pisces. Now as a disclaimer I have never tried this, so I have no idea if it works at all. 

I've also read that if you wash your hair with natural things it helps. I have washed my hair with baking soda and been doing a vinegar rinse. I use about a 1 to 2 proportion of white vinegar and water. I have also heard that apple cider vinegar is good too. For me I was using the white vinegar because I found that it helps with taming my crazy curly hair. I have notices some growth since April my hair has gone for being 19inches long to 23. However I am still looking at other ways mainly cause I'm inpatient and it doesn't seem to be growing faster. However I do like this solution, it cuts the cost of shampoo and conditioner almost completely.

A friend of mine takes biotin a natural vitamin that is know to help strength and encourage the growth of hair and nails. I have not done this yet so I don't know how effective it is however I would love to try it. I have a habit of picking at my nails if I'm nervous so even if this doesn't help with the hair a lot, it may be worth it.

Those are three of many solutions out there if you have any thoughts I would love to hear them.

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

New Adventures


So I have three catch phrases I guess you could say. More or less they are three lines that I use in different situations that I think are knowledgeable or just describe my life.

"Builds Character"

"Knowledge is Power"

"I'll sleep when I'm dead!"


So with my leaving for a great new adventure in about a week. (I will be starting my freshman year at Gannon) I think that I would be fun to try to actually come of with or rather try to find a way to be blogging more frequently. Now I know you thinking to yourself, Mary you said this before. This is true and I know that I haven't followed up on that thought and I don't know at the moment if I will but I want to see where I can go with this blog and I think that maybe just maybe this new adventure will be a way to make this something worth reading.

So my quotes well I thought that I could for starting out at least until I get a feel for blogging that I will try to at least once a week come up with a post about some sort of story, lesson or adventure that could by some stretch of imagination fall under one of those categories.